It has been SO long since my last post!
I am seriously sorry about it and there is really no good excuse for that.
I could go on writing you about all the things that happened to me and distracted or prevented me from writing, but the sad truth is that I am a lazy, not very well organized, not multitasking at all person.
Oh yeah, I am also still in that long dark tunnel called “university”.
Adding my not very good capacities of managing my life to the fact that I am still a student, very late with my graduation and very sick of it, you can imagine how badly I deal with combining my studies and extra activities.
The truth is that I think about updating the blog all the time and I feel like I have a lot to say: but the omnipresent feeling of guilt because I am not studying (or studying enough) and the fact that it always takes me quite a long time to reorganize my thoughts and write something properly, make me let the blog slowly slip lower and lower in my to-do list…
So, what about a short focus of how to finish your studies can be an actual problem in a long distance relationship?
As a matter of fact, if they would have asked me a couple of years ago, I would have never considered it such a big obstacle. I mean, it’s not like you are in high school and you must finish it. Or like, you have a good job that you are afraid to quit. If you are a university student, in the very worst case you will have what, 2 years more to do? Just hurry up and finish! Or move somewhere else to study there!
Nothing more wrong than that…
Soon enough I discovered at my own expenses that university can be a concrete problem standing in your way, whether you want to plan your future post-graduation or just take off and move somewhere with your partner without any particular plan. And of course, the stress of being in a long distance relationship doesn’t really go well with studying hard: missing you girlfriend (or boyfriend) and the possibility of sharing both everyday life and important moments is sad and frustrating, and for sure it doesn’t help with focusing on that crazy amount of exams you still need to take. Meanwhile, traveling as much as you can in order to meet drains your savings, takes away precious time to study (or sometimes, even to follow your classes!) and absorbs your mind completely.
My advice? Hold on and get the hell on your books! I know it’s unbearable, I know it’s the last thing you want and you feel like doing, but you seriously don’t want to find yourself procrastinating all the time, failing exams because you didn’t study enough and eventually prolonging this period even more. Maybe it won’t be the most brilliant period of your university career, maybe you will need to sacrifice some time with your love, some travels and so on, but I think in the end it’s going to be worth it. Once that chapter is over, you will be able to finally focus on all the possibilities open in front of you.
Just never stop thinking long-term and remember: the more time you spend in the university, the more difficult it is to get out of it!
[You have to forgive me, but it has been already three years that I am doing my two-years master and I can’t take it anymore. If I wasn’t sick enough after I got my bachelor degree, then I had the amazing idea of going for an Erasmus exchange, which was awesome and of course left me with the most horrible post-Erasmus syndrome ever. Plus: Italian university system sucks, I didn’t like almost any of my exams schedule (there was also a tremendous amount of History exams involved!), then there was also the girlfriend far away in Poland to make everything more joyful. And here I am, still stuck here, starting to work on my thesis only now and still with the future filled only with question marks.
Run, if you can. Run. D:]